Boston.com / News / Boston Globe / Magazine / Gender Games - why don't women want to be different? They have vaginas, men have penises. It's pretty obvious there are going to be some other differences if you take those facts into account. There are some things that women just can't do, just as there are some things that men just can't do. The aggressive, competitive nature of American culture leads to homogenization as everyone wants to be equal to everyone else.